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About H3Helpline

The H3Helpline is a ministry of H3. H3Helpline is dedicated to letting those who are hurting from their post-abortion pain know they are not alone. We understand the pain that is associated with post-abortion in women and men involved in this desperate decision. We provide the best recovery resources available today.

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H3Helpline is a national abortion helpline answering calls from across the country. We serve as a safe place for you to call if you are considering abortion or have suffered emotional pain after an abortion. Our professionally trained Phone Coaches have also experienced abortion. They are available to listen, empathize and encourage you to start your own journey of healing. Our Phone Coaches will research and recommend healing resources in your local area to begin your healing and restoration.

Together we can restore countless lives. Helping Heal the Pain of Abortion One phone call at a time.

 

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OUR PURPOSE

Provide a safe, confidential, 24/7 Helpline for those who have experienced abortion, by offering encouragement and resources to start their healing journey.

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OUR MISSION

Help those struggling with the choice of a past abortion find Help โ€ข Hope โ€ข Healing through H3Helpline.

H3Helpline Phone Coaches

H3Helpline serves as a safe place for you to call. Our professionally trained Phone Coaches have also experienced abortion. They are available to listen, empathize and encourage you to start your own journey of healing.

TERRI

TERRI

Founder/Director Missouri

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Terri is Director of H3Helpline and is living in Missouri.ย  Terri is the former Director and Founder of Riverside Pregnancy Center in Denver, CO where she served for 10 years.ย  Terri also has 9 years experience in managing and training an abortion recovery phone line. She has had the privilege of answering and talking to thousands of hurting people and assisting them to find hope and healing resources.ย  She has taught and led numerous recovery groups, and helped with weekend recovery programs.

 

Terri has her own story of Helpโ€ขHopeโ€ขHealing after abortion.ย  She chose abortion when she was in college, right after abortion became legal.ย  She thought, โ€œHow could abortion be so wrong if it is legal?โ€ย  Her boyfriend at the time was encouraging abortion -โ€œno one will have to knowโ€.ย  Also, she didnโ€™t want to embarrass her family with being pregnant and not married.ย  Terri was able to keep her decision a secret for years.ย  It wasnโ€™t until she saw her first ultra sound of her second child that she came to the realization of her choice โ€“ she had terminated life.ย  Terri was able to suppress her emotions and hide her abortion for several more years.ย  One day while sitting in church, the pastor opened up the service for testimonies, a young girl stood up and asked forgiveness for her abortion.ย  That is when Terriโ€™s journey of healing started.ย  First sheย acknowledged her regrets and loss,ย and then she asked Godโ€™s forgiveness and help in healing and restoration.ย  God gave Terri a passion to tell her story so other women could break free from the bondage of their hurt and pain, and be renewed and restored to live in freedom.ย  She wants you to find your Helpโ€ขHopeโ€ขHealing after Abortion.

LORIEN

LORIEN

Assistant Director

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Lorien lives in Florida with her husband Mark, her son Payton, and their bulldog Sarge. She was born and raised in a rural county in a broken home to parents with a wild propensity for self-destruction. After the death of her father at thirteen, she went to live with her mother who was an addict with an abusive boyfriend. From the time she was born, it seemed destruction was right on her heels. She tried to stay one step ahead but every decision she made only put her deeper into the enemyโ€™s camp.

She ran into the arms of a boy and his family during High School, but the false sense of security sheโ€™d gained was exposed when she became pregnant, and they encouraged abortion. They were willing to sacrifice her baby to save their own and he didnโ€™t show up to the meeting to defend her or their child. Abortion never crossed her mind, but she was at their mercy with no home to run back to. Since she wasnโ€™t ready to make the decision she delayed, and the clock ran out. Three months after giving birth to her son, she was pregnant again. She was sleep-deprived and utterly defeated, so when the boy gave her the money and told her to get an abortion, she didnโ€™t have any fight left in her. She drove an hour to the facility and forced herself through the process. She refused to look at the sonogram and only remembers the words, โ€œabout six weeks.โ€

She was consumed immediately with self-loathing and despised the boy. She punished herself by never becoming a mother again and lived under the weighty hand of her own condemnation for fifteen years. The Lord would lead her to light gradually throughout that dark time. He introduced her to a good man and encouraged her back to church. Sheโ€™d been many times as someoneโ€™s guest, but never really believed that God loved her. She knew she was doing a lousy job fixing herself, so she decided to give Him a chance, to do things His way. After He had her obedience, He revealed His heart for her just like the scripture says He will do in John 14:21.

Since then sheโ€™s been on a mission to give Him the desires of His heart, which is souls reconciled through His son Jesus Christ. She uses her gifts, talents, and pain to lead and strengthen others in the faith. Shortly after committing her own life, she was encouraged to become a sidewalk counselor outside of an abortion facility where her path intersected with a pregnancy center. She was encouraged to go through their post-abortive healing study, Forgiven and Set Free by Linda Cochran. She is now cultivating pregnancy resources for her community and received full-circle redemption when she spoke in the Florida Senate during the 6-week ban in support. The voice she silenced was given a platform that day to advocate for future generations in the womb. She continues to advance pro-life and pro-family legislation and is an aspiring author working on her first memoir.

 

CHRISTINE

CHRISTINE

Phone Coach Texas

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Christine is dedicated to helping women heal from their pain of abortion.ย  Christine has worked with an Abortion Recovery Helpline for the last 2 years.ย  She has attended Rachelโ€™s Vineyard and Grief to Grace and understands the journey of healing.ย  Christine also volunteers with New Heart of Texas.

This is Christineโ€™s story in her own words:

โ€œI was 15 years old when I got pregnant by my boyfriend. For a while, I thought we would get married and be a family and I secretly prayed for that, but didnโ€™t really even know who God was.ย  I did not know it at the time but he was an alcoholic. When his mother found out, she pressured me to get an abortion saying. โ€˜I was too young to be a momโ€™. He continued to drink and cheated on me. How could the person who was supposed to love me, hurt me so badly? My heart was reeling with lies whispered by the deceiver, so I made an appointment with an abortion clinic thinking it would โ€œtake care of my problemโ€.ย  I went home and told my mom that I was getting an abortion. My mother told me not to do it. Through my tears, I told my mom that I felt I had no choice but to do it. She told me to not come back home if I did, so I left. My boyfriend who was supposed to โ€˜be there for meโ€™ went out and got drunk again, so a friend took me. It all seemed like a bad dream, but unfortunately, it was all too real. At the clinic, it so was cold and austereโ€”I started crying again. I really did not want to do it. I just wanted someone to tell me I would be okay and the baby would be okay. That I could handle thisโ€ฆmy mom had done that, but again the lies were swirling around in my head. The nurse told me to put a gown on and to lay on the exam table. The two things I will never forget about the abortion:

  1. The extremely sharp pains I felt as my baby was dismembered and his life taken from me โ€”I cried and told them to stop but they wouldnโ€™t.
  2. The horrible sucking noise of the vacuum machine.

Eventually, I stumbled out to the waiting room. The staff quickly grabbed me and told me sternly to go to the back of the clinic to get picked up! I was dazed and in pain and left with an antibiotic in my hand and my heart broken. I was completely drained โ€”emotionally and physically and later on I realized, spiritually, too. I drank alcohol and did drugs to numb myself out. I tried to tell myself that it was okay, but I knew deep down, it was not okayโ€”I was not okay. Physically, I worried if I would ever be able to have children? Emotionally, I felt such guilt and regret. Spiritually, I felt so ashamed that I thought God would never forgive me.

My journey to healing began about 20 years ago. I had met a young man and we fell in love. I prayed to God that this man would become my husband. God answered that prayer! My future husband and I started going to church, where he accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior, got baptized and then we got married in the church!ย  As our faith journey has progressed, I have received healing and hope through Bible study, prayer and attending an abortion recovery retreat. I was able to honor the memory of my son and receive true forgiveness and healing from the Lord! My favorite verse isย Philippians 4:13, โ€œI can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.โ€

STEPHANIE

STEPHANIE

Phone Coach Florida

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Stephanie is a mother of 5 children, a mother-in-love to 4, and a grandmother to 14. She is a licensed massage therapist.ย ย  God is expanding her passions and desires to include many other areas, including legislation through being a citizen activist. She comes to H3Helpline with a great passion to encourage women to start their healing journey from the pain of abortion.

It has been said โ€ฆโ€˜No little girl ever dreams about becoming a prostituteโ€™.

Let it be knownโ€ฆโ€˜No little girl ever dreams about having an abortionโ€™.

She was raised in a loving, two parent Christian home. Her world was safe. Her childhood desire was to be married, have children and grow old gracefully with her husband.ย  But life had a detour she never saw coming. She and her high school sweetheart made a decision to end the life of their first child.ย  During college they parted ways. Stephanie became unglued and promiscuous.ย  Another pregnancy and another abortion.ย  Soon after the second secret abortion, she and her high school sweet heart got married.ย  God blessed them with 5 beautiful children.ย  Things were as they should be.ย  Or were they?ย ย  An ache deep inside of her continued.ย  Going from doctor to counselor to psychologists, one day a pastor friend helped her turn her eyes back to Jesus, giving rest and hope.ย  But she was still VERY broken.

Her story isnโ€™t different from millions of women in various stages of their confusion. One moment Stephanie convinced herself it is OK to have an abortionโ€ฆ but felt like a lifetime to convince herself she was going to BE okโ€ฆ All the while knowing deep inside she was NOT ok.ย  Not without getting help from somewhere. But where??

Her breakthrough came when she was able to grieve the loss of her babies privately and publicly through a ministry called If Not For Grace.ย  Her children she lost to abortion became real.ย ย ย  Her healing journey began.

Stephanie now has the boldness to be obedient and speak out for truth. The pain that had inhibited her from her God given purpose, gave way to understanding Godโ€™s plan is for her for โ€˜such a time as thisโ€™.ย ย  She gives all glory to our God our Father for HIS mercy and grace.ย ย Esther 4:14ย #prograce

CINDY

CINDY

Prayer Coordinator Texas

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Cindy comes to us with a heart for those who have experienced abortion. ย She has been freed from the bondage of self-hatred, fear, anger, manipulation, depression, rejection, and the list goes on and on. Because of her freedom she has a passion to help others.ย  Cindy has 13 years of experience leading Forgiven and Set Free, helping with Rachelโ€™s Vineyard Retreats and answering the International Helpline for the over 2 years.

As a child Cindy grew up in a loving and healthy environment. ย She was brought up Catholic, so she knew right from wrong.ย  As an adolescent the loving and healthy environment took an ugly turn when her parents divorced which reigned in great turmoil and confusion. ย Her mother then got involved in an abusive relationship and was buried shortly thereafter.ย  Cindy turned to drugs to numb the pain.ย  She was naรฏve in many ways, she did not know how to have healthy relationships and found herself pregnant. ย She was ashamed and alone and did not know where to turn. She thought how could she bring this shame upon her family? A friend told her about abortion.ย  It was her escape, her refuge from the storm, and no one would ever know.ย  So off she went, a friend dropped her off and there she sat. ย Looking down at that cold laminate tile floor in the cold metal fold up chair along with the others in the same predicament she was in.ย  It was a long wait and a painful procedure. The pain and the sound, she will never forget that sound.ย  It was over, she was so thankful it was over. Then she had to make that awful, dreaded decision a second time. The second time was worse than the first; Cindy said she should have known better. ย It was over in an instant, but the pain; the pain remained.ย  The drugs became more prevalent and alcohol was added to numb the pain.ย  Cindy didnโ€™t realize where it was coming from since she was freed from anyone knowing that she had ever been pregnant in the first place.ย  Cindy was in deep denial of what she had done.ย  Cindy then met her wonderful husband and they had a beautiful daughter, it was while Cindy was pregnant the harsh reality of what she had done came slapping her in the face. ย Her thoughts came rushing in โ€“โ€œWhat if God chooses to punish me for what I did? Will my baby be ok?ย  Oh sure you are having a baby now, itโ€™s not just a blob, itโ€™s a babyโ€ย  More and more it flooded her mind, then when that glorious day arrived and her daughter entered her world, Cindy was unable to bond with her, not wanting to hold her precious gift from God.ย  She was perfect in every way, He did not punish Cindy.ย  He had no need to punish her; she was punishing herself in ways that she didnโ€™t even know.ย  Every relationship Cindy had suffered from the rage she felt toward herself. ย Even through all of that God was pursuing her, longing for her to surrender to His is love and care.ย  Cindyโ€™s little family finally all fell into His loving arms of mercy and grace after years of relentless pursuit.ย  Their lives began to have real meaning, relationships were beginning to heal and life was manageable.ย  But there was still that dirty secret that was tucked away, that no one except her friend and God and eventually her husband knew about.ย  It stalked her like an extortionist waiting to release it to the world, to her newfound friends, her church! ย Oh her church, Cindyโ€™s thoughts went wild again, โ€œwhat if they found out who she really was? They would never allow her to be involved in anything anymore I must do all that I can to keep them from knowing.โ€ย  It was then that she came clean with her small group she could no longer hide who she was.ย  Cindy knew that she wanted to help others at that point to never have to feel like she was feeling.ย  Her small group of course, was loving and compassionate and supportive.ย  Not long after that Cindyโ€™s daughter and her husband were expecting a child.ย  Cindy escorted them to a local Pregnancy Help Center and discovered an Abortion Recovery Program. ย It came at the nick of time for Cindy to be able to enjoy her first grand-girl.ย  She had never understood why she had no desire to hold babies, but God used this program to heal her broken heart and, she is now able to enjoy holding babies.

Cindy says, โ€œShe is certain had abortion not been legal, I would never have considered it. ย But it was legal and easily attainable, so that is the road that I traveled.ย  It is the wide road and many are deceived by it. ย Abortion is by far the most life altering decision I have ever made and I have always regretted it.ย  If you have found yourself struggling with the misguided decision of abortion, I encourage you to give the power of an Abortion Recovery Program an opportunity to help you heal from the pain, shame and suffering of your loss.โ€

LONI

LONI

Phone Coach Florida

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Loni has a heart for helping women and men find help after abortion.ย  She has been trained as a facilitator for โ€œForgiven and Set Freeโ€ and Pathway to Sexual Healingโ€ both by Linda Cochrane.ย  ย Loni has also facilitated other Christ centered post abortion recovery studies which included, โ€œSurrendering the Secret and โ€œConcepts of Recovery -The Journeyโ€.ย  In 2013, Loni retired and began ministry work full-time which included serving in a menโ€™s prison where she began facilitating, โ€œA Purpose Driven Lifeโ€ by Rick Warren.ย  Loni hasย completed the 12 Steps in Celebrate Recovery and served as a facilitator at Calvary Chapel.ย  ย In 2017, she co-authored a post abortion curriculum titled โ€œBrick by Brick Workbookโ€ based on the book, โ€œBrick by Brick Healing a Womanโ€™s Heart His Wayโ€ by Keven Covert.ย  ย Loni is no stranger to help lines as she has answered calls for 3 years on an abortion recovery helpline.

โ€œI never really recovered from my parentโ€™s divorce at the age of 2 and the abuse sustained from a cruel step-mother โ€“ now all deceased โ€“ so it wasnโ€™t a surprise when I became pregnant at the age of 14.ย  My 19 year old boyfriend assured me that he knew a woman who would take care of the problem.ย  I was hoping my boyfriend would offer to marry me but that was never mentioned.ย  He took me to a woman who injected Lysol cleaning solution into me.ย  She charged me $25.00.ย  I ended up in the hospital two days later.ย  The doctors were aware of the illegal abortion but simply gave me a D&C and sent me home.ย  One year later I became pregnant by the same boy and the scenario was repeated.ย  Although the first abortion had been hidden from my father, this time he suspected that something was wrong and sent me to live with a relative in California.ย  I ended up in the hospital where once again a D&C was performed.ย  I had been treated in two hospitals in two different states and seen by many medical personnel and no one suggested my need for counseling.โ€

Loni was treated for depression, fits of rage, nightmares and intimacy disorders for over ten years and not one medical professional told her that it was connected to her three abortions.ย  It was in 2005, after three failed marriages and at the age of fifty that she began her abortion healing journey.ย By 53, she had been married three times and her fourth divorce was in her future.ย  It wasnโ€™t until Loni completed a Bible study called Divorce Care did she begin to suspect that these events in her life were connected to something much deeperโ€ฆsomewhere she had never visited.ย  She did not know anything about Post Abortion Syndrome.ย  The guilt and shame burdened her so much that Loni found it impossible to maintain an intimate relationship.ย ย  After that first study, the Lord led her to another study โ€œForgiven and Set Freeโ€ by Linda Cochrane which helped heal the pain of abortion.

LINDA

LINDA

Phone Coach Missouri

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Linda lives in Missouri with her husband of 42 years. They have two children and five grandchildren. Linda has worked for If Not For Grace Ministries (INFG), an abortion recovery ministry for five years as the Community Awareness Coordinator.ย  Along with Community Awareness she has facilitated Her Choice to Heal abortion recovery classes, helped facilitate reconciliation weekends and led Bible studies through their Next Steps services. ย Linda spreads her passion for abortion recovery to the community through pastor presentations, speaking engagements, conferences/events and networking. She has been trained in trauma healing through the American Bible Society Trauma Healing Conference.ย  She is honored to serve on the Advisory Board for Wise Women: Education, Community, Empowerment in Leeโ€™s Summit.

Lindaโ€™s zeal for womenโ€™s restoration comes from her own abortion story and the restoration God has done in her life. Without Godโ€™s forgiveness and redemption her marriage would never have made it this far.ย  Linda and her husband experienced an abortion together before they were married.ย  The Bible says โ€˜the enemy comes to steal, and to kill and to destroyโ€™ and that is exactly what he was doing to their marriage.ย  He had taken their baby and he worked for 37 years to take their marriage.ย John 10:10ย continues with โ€œI have come that they may have life, and they may have it more abundantly.โ€ย  Through Godโ€™s word, an abortion recovery class and reconciliation weekend Linda and her husband have been living lifeย more abundantlyย by helping others find healing from past abortions.

SHARON

SHARON

Phone Coach Missouri

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Sharon is a retired registered nurse who worked 30+ years primarily in adult emergency health at Kansas Cityโ€™s safety net hospital which was at the time the primary teaching hospital for the University of Missouri Medical School at Kansas City.ย  Most of those years she was manager (with a number of titles) of the Emergency Department and also had supervisory responsibility at various times for outpatient clinics, critical care units, specialty inpatient units and the dialysis service.ย  Most recentlyย she has volunteered with INFG as facilitator for HCTH studies, Reconciliation Weekends, Next Steps Bible studies and served on the Board of Directors.ย  She has completed Stephen Minister training and will be commissioned as a Stephen Minister in June, 2018.

Widowed at an early age and without any living children, Sharon has been involved in various volunteer activities that have utilized her nursing background, management experience, and the spiritual gifts God has given.ย  She is an active church member serving in: womenโ€™s ministry; choir; Bible studies; mentoring; Haiti Home of Hope Board of Directors (orphanage the church operates in Pigon, Haiti; Missions Committee; Scholarship Committee.

Sharonโ€™s personal abortion story includes two abortions as an unmarried young adult; coming to a relationship with Jesus as a result of her abortions; years of locking away the pain and shame; keeping others at a distance for fear of being โ€œfound outโ€; building a successful career and solid marriage; and finally- about 40 years after the second abortion- being broken by the need to grieve and heal, seeking help through If Not for Grace Ministries (INFG).ย  God had graciously brought her to the realization that bringing the truth to light was what was needed to be fully free to serve Him in any way He desired.

In 2013, she completed the Her Choice to Heal (HCTH)study and attended a Reconciliation Weekend which included a much needed opportunity to fully reconcile with God, acknowledge and honor and grieve publicly for her two children.

TALLIE

TALLIE

Phone Coach Missouri

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Tallie Stafford is a wife, mother, grandmother, and Licensed Clinical Social Worker whose greatest passion is helping women discover that healing after abortion is possible. After experiencing an abortion at the age of sixteen that resulted in the loss of her twins, she carried decades of hidden grief, shame, guilt, and self-condemnation.

Although she knew she had received Godโ€™s forgiveness, she had never fully experienced the healing that comes from mourning her children, confronting her pain, and allowing God to restore the broken places in her heart.

Everything changed when Tallie began participating in post-abortion recovery ministries. Through Forgiven and Set Free, Found and Woven, Surrendering the Secret, and Her Choice to Heal, she experienced profound emotional and spiritual healing. These studies helped her replace years of shame with hope, acknowledge and honor the lives of her twins, and embrace the truth that healing is a journey available to every woman willing to take the first step.

Today, Tallie is passionate about walking alongside others who carry the silent burden of abortion. As a volunteer with the H3 Helpline and her local pregnancy resource center, she desires to offer women the same compassion, understanding, and hope that transformed her own life. She believes no one should have to suffer in silence and that, through Godโ€™s grace and the support of caring people, freedom from guilt and shame is possible.

Tallie shares her story to remind others that while abortion may become part of someoneโ€™s story, it does not have to define the rest of their life. Her prayer is that every woman who reaches out will know she is loved, she is not alone, and healing is possible.

SCOTT

SCOTT

Phone Coach Missouri

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Scott lives in Missouri with his bride of over 47 years. They have two children (plus one in heaven) and six grandchildren.ย 

ย  ย  Scott is retired after starting out in public law enforcement and then working many years in Human Resources for an international energy company and an international mining company. Scott is also a cancer survivor.

ย  ย  Scott has served in many volunteer positions with the Boy Scouts of America, on the local adult committee for Young Life, on the Board for the Heritage Philharmonic, and on the Board for Found and Woven Help After Abortion (an abortion recovery ministry). Scott is an active member of Shepherdโ€™s Way Church and attends the local menโ€™s weekly Bible Study Fellowship.

ย  ย  Scott found the healing and redemption that he didnโ€™t realize he needed from his own abortion experience with his bride, before they were married, when he attended a Reconciliation Weekend to โ€˜supportโ€™ his bride who was completing her healing after participating in an abortion recovery study through Found and Woven.ย  Since that event their marriage has been revived, and Scott has served in many volunteer capacities with Found and Woven; from helping facilitate reconciliation weekends to sharing his story with small and large groups.

BRENDA

BRENDA

Phone Coach Florida

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Hello my name is Brenda, and I live in Florida.ย ย I moved here from Ohio when I was 21.ย 

As a child with 3 siblings, our home life was very volatile, and my parents divorced when I was a teenager. My grandparents took me to church regularly, and I accepted Christ as a teen.

At 17 after graduating high school, I left home, got a job, and began my own journey.ย  At 19, I got pregnant.ย  With no one to rely on, and I wasnโ€™t with the father of the baby, my decision to have an abortion.ย  Even though I knew it was not the right thing to do, it seemed to be my only choice.ย  This was in the early 1970โ€™s when abortion was not legal.ย  Some friends drove me to New York City for the abortion.ย 

At the age of 21, I was pregnant again.ย  I planned to have the baby but fear took hold, and I had another abortion.ย  I flew on my own to Washington D.C. for the procedure.ย  This was the most alone I have ever felt.ย  The aftermath of this abortion was very difficult.ย 

I moved to Florida 6 months later.ย  My career took off and my life looked really great.ย  Underneath the faรงade for the next 40 years depression took over, and I experienced anxiety, anger, and fear.ย 

When I was 61, I heard about a healing program for post-abortive women.ย  This was such a blessing.ย ย  Through this, I understood why my life had been filled with depression, anxiety, anger and fear, and the healing came.

Shortly after, I began facilitating healing programs and volunteering as a Helpline Coach. Walking the healing journey with women who also need healing from abortion has become my purpose.ย  โ€œYou intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lies.โ€ Genesis 50:20

FAITH

FAITH

Phone Coach Florida

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Faith is a military wife, with 3 adult children and one son-in-love. Faith has served in her local pregnancy resource centers since 2016 in several capacities including Abortion Recovery Center Manager and Client Services Director. She brings years of experience in Abortion Healing and Recovery Care to H3, having led support groups for both Forgiven and Set Free and Surrendering the Secret programs. She has a passion for seeing women and men set free from the brokenness and pain of abortion.
Testimony: I grew up as the daughter and granddaughter of military chaplains (pastors.) In my house, there was always pressure (some of that internal) to be a perfect officerโ€™s daughter and Christian. My problem was that from the time I was little, I felt very broken. I could never live up to expectations, and my sin and shame kept me simultaneously feeling worthless and desperate for the love I felt might make me whole. My father was deployed for most of my preteen and teen years, and I wasnโ€™t close with my mother, so I began to search for my one โ€œtrue loveโ€- someone who would love me unconditionally. My low self-esteem and my constant belief that love would fix all my problems only led me to a new problem when I got pregnant at 19. I could not go home and tell my father the pastor, that I was pregnant. I ran straight to an abortion clinic. I shut out all emotion and everything I believed in, to shut out the possibility of my parentsโ€™ rejection and judgment. What I found in my answer of abortion was just more pain and brokenness. My anesthesia failed so I was awake and alert for surgery. The pain didnโ€™t matter- the procedure was underway, so nurses held me down while the doctor finished. Within 24 hours I developed an infection so bad that I began hallucinating and had to go to the ER to be treated. All the while, I was grieving the child I didnโ€™t think I wanted, feeling abandoned and hated by God, and feeling relief at the same time. So, I โ€œburiedโ€ the pain, never talked about it again, and went on to struggle more than I could have ever dreamt possible. I became emotional shrapnel, flinging myself through life, cutting, injuring, and maiming everyone important to me. I made emotional decisions because I chose not to face the trauma and grief, which in turn caused more pain, and then more emotional choices. I went through 2 marriages, affairs, a divorce, and struggled as a mother, all stemming from pain that I buried but couldnโ€™t run from. It was a secret poison for every area of my life from that day forward for years to come 16 years later, the thing that changed my life, my family, and my future was the hope in Christ that I found in an abortion recovery support group/study that I attended. I had gone back to church after several years and then felt led to volunteer at our local pregnancy center to help women who found themselves facing an unplanned pregnancy. To volunteer, they required me to go through an abortion recovery support group. In the process of that recovery support group/ bible study, I found a faith, hope, and healing that I had once believed was impossible. Growing up Iโ€™d envisioned God as a critical, smiting God, and Iโ€™d never been able to reconcile โ€œJesus Loves Meโ€ with that understanding, especially considering my brokenness.
During my study of the bible in abortion recovery, I grew to know God as a loving, nurturing,
forgiving Father who sacrificed for me, knowing I would be sinful, and loving me anyway. I came
to discover King Davidโ€™s prayer in Psalm 51:14 as my own: โ€œForgive me for shedding blood, O
God who saves; and I will joyfully sing of your forgiveness.โ€ I no longer needed to struggle to โ€œforgive myselfโ€ because I discovered that Iโ€™d already received the ultimate forgiveness. I was
free in Christ!
My prayer for anyone reading this is that you will call H3, take a leap of faith, commit to recovery, and find the peace, hope, and forgiveness that your heart needs.

HEIDI

HEIDI

Phone Coach Texas

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Heidi lives in Texas with her husband Tim of 32 years and has 3 children and 2 grandchildren. She served as the previous Outreach Director with Oil of Joy Prison Ministries leading an Abortion Recovery program in the prison for 7 years, started Heart2ARM and held private abortion recovery programs with retreats. She is currently serving at her local pregnancy center as a Client advocate and is passionate about awareness for post-abortive healing in the community and on social media. She is dedicated to speaking the truth against the lies of abortion because she bought the lie- but Jesus bought her back!

Here is her story:

When I was 17 and the man that I had put all my faith in wanted to walk away, I had to tell him the truth- I was pregnant. I was not trying to keep him ensnared, like he believed. I was very independent and believed I could do anything but when he denied even the ability to create a child, it made me feel worthless. When I brought the news to my parents, my Father’s response was that it would “ruin my life”. My Mother wanted me to choose adoption. I told her no way! I would never forget my child (and I never have). My father paid for the abortion that I insisted on. I fought hard in school during a debate to prove that it was not a baby yet. BUT- the emptiness that I felt after the abortion told me otherwise. There was a darkness that I now know as our enemy (Satan), that came in with such condemnation that I ran further into the arms of men and became even more promiscuous. Nothing could fill the deep emptiness of my soul. Until my best friend became an overnight Jesus fanatic! Begging me to go with her to a youth event, I finally succumbed. That night I heard about a man who died for my sins- ALL of them! Even the one I thought was unforgivable. Jesus not only wanted to forgive me, he wanted to be a part of my life! Jesus became my BFF that night and I was radically saved never to be the same again! He truly bought me back with the redeeming work of the cross! His life for mine!
Forgiveness was instant- healing was a process. I thought all was complete until the Lord sat me down and gave me a vision of my 2 daughters in heaven. One by abortion, one by miscarriage. I thought God was punishing me for the abortion with the miscarriage which he quickly corrected. No- God was not punishing me. But just like I needed to mourn the loss of my baby I miscarried, I needed to mourn the loss of my aborted baby. This began my own process of healing. The layers peeledย back like an onion, one by one as God showed me more of His compassion and mercy!
I now use every God-given opportunity to help other women receive the same post-abortion healing and truth about the trauma abortion causes. Standing for life in Austin for the Heartbeat Bill, speaking to Pastors and leaders about the need to bring healing, and serving the women who call the H3 Helpline.ย ย 

YOLANDA

YOLANDA

Phone Coach Texas

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Yolanda Hill is an evangelist in the Church
of God in Christ. She works diligently with her
husband, Dr. Charles Hill, as the pastorโ€™s wife in their local church. She has worked in various
ministries such as the Music & Youth ministries, Womenโ€™s Affairs ministry, and Church Administration.
Yolanda accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior as a young teen. However, her commitment was short-lived as the temptations of adolescence arose. She believes it altered her path when, at the age of six years old, she experienced repeated sexual abuse. She did not disclose it to her mother until she was about sixteen years old. Though she doesnโ€™t excuse her behavior, Yolanda also believes when she became a teen, she looked for the love and attention she felt she did not receive as a child, in a relationship with her first serious boyfriend. He constantly told her their courtship โ€œwould last foreverโ€ and that he intended to marry her. They felt it was perfectly okay for them to have premarital sex because of their future intentions. Though she knew it was wrong, Yolanda believed him because she enjoyed the attention and โ€œloveโ€ she desired. She became pregnant after a few months and was told by her mother that she could not have her baby. Yolanda begged her to reconsider; however, her momโ€™s mind was set in stone. She took her to the abortion clinic for the procedure. While Yolanda doesnโ€™t remember all the sights and sounds of that visit, she remembers the staff members told her she was โ€œonly getting rid of tissue.โ€ Little did she know that the blob of tissue would be a constant part of her heart and thoughts and a reminder to her that โ€œheโ€ was indeed her child. She would envision him throughout various stages of their lives together.
The nurse told her after the abortion procedure she needed to make plans to prevent another pregnancy and to take precautions so she wouldnโ€™t come back the next year. She told the nurse, โ€œOh, I wonโ€™t ever be back here again!โ€ At least thatโ€™s what she thought. Yolanda, in fact, had a second abortion. She understands now
there is some truth to whatโ€™s known as the replacement baby. She feels she unknowingly, suffered from the effects of the first abortion and spiraled into feelings of depression, shame, and guilt. After the first procedure, she grew apart from her boyfriend because it became too much to handle. She then dated a slightly older
gentleman whom she met at work on a summer job. By this time, she also expressed a bit of rebellion. Now, she realizes that in some ways, she may have been angry with her mother for insisting that she abort her first child. After her second pregnancy, Yolandaโ€™s mother did not force her to have an abortion; but Yolanda felt
her motherโ€™s disappointment and desperately sought her approval once again.
Yolanda knows without a doubt that her second child was a โ€œbeautiful little girlโ€ and, replacement or not, she loved her dearly. After a year or so went by, Yolanda met her husband, Charles. Though it was a struggle, she โ€œsurrendered her secretโ€ to him. As a young preacher, he admits he had some reservations though he didnโ€™t let her know at the time. He says God spoke to him and told him, โ€œMarry her, or you will regret it.โ€ They have been married since 1982. In 2022, they celebrated 40 years of a wonderful and happy marriage.
Yolanda attributes many of her accomplishments to her relationship with Christ and her husbandโ€™s support. That support allowed her to attend college, acquire her bachelorโ€™s and masterโ€™s degrees, and complete hours toward her Master of Divinity degree. In addition, she is also a retired high school teacher. Together, they have three adult children; two are married (their bonus children). They also have four grandchildren. Yolanda has named her unborn children and written a song dedicated to their memory and honor entitled, Iโ€™ll See You Again. She is a speaker, psalmist, recording artist, business owner, and author.
In January 2024, she completed her book, Pretty Black: Fearfully and Wonderfully Made. It is based on her life and ministry, which aims to be an inspiration to women of all ages. Yolanda is excited about her most current role as First Administrative Assistant of The Priceless Ministries. Additionally, in her newest role as a Phone Coach for the H3Helpline, she seeks to continue to share her testimony of transparency, love, forgiveness, and deliverance. The goal is to inspire others to their God-given purpose. Through all of her mountain-top and valley experiences, she has had a blessed life, and she is determined to finish strong!

De'Cean

De'Cean

Phone Coach Texas

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My name is Deโ€™Cean Jonesย  and I have been married to my wonderful husband Alten Jones Jr., an Aircraftย Maintenanceย Technician, for the past 18 years.ย  We also have three (3) beautiful Kingdom children!
I have a heart for helping women find their healing after abortion. I have been trained as a facilitator for โ€œForgiven and Set Free Healingโ€ by Linda Cochrane through Hope for a Heart in Texas. I have also co-facilitated for over 10 years at Oak Cliff Bible and Fellowship under Dr. Tony Evans through Free at Last post abortion recovery studies. I have also served in the Pregnancy Crisis Center and counseling ministry for several years under the great leadership of Dr.Tony Evans!
When I was 18 years old and in High school I became pregnant and made the decision to a have an abortion which I immediately regretted. I kept it a secret for over 18 years. I thought about it from time to time and around the abortion anniversary each year. I attended a post abortion class through my church Free at last program. Not because I wanted to. I wanted to volunteer at our Pregnancy Crisis Center as a client advocate. Only to find out that it was required to attend an post ย abortion recovery bible-study if I had an abortion before.

I attended Forgiven and Set Free Abortion Recovery in 2006 and there, for the first time, I ย was able to forgive myself for aborting ย my unborn child. Itโ€™s was the most painful thing I had to admit and deal with, after buried these feeling, hurt , shame and pain for so long๐Ÿ˜ข I didnโ€™t even realize I needed to be completely healed from my abortion experience before attending this bible-study /recovery program!

Since then I have dedicated my life to help women find healing and forgiveness from the emotional trauma they have suffered because of their abortions and/or abuse.healing started.ย  First, I had to acknowledge my regrets and loss, and then I ย asked God for his forgiveness and to help me receive his healing and restoration.ย  I shared this painful journey with a group of ladies that had made the same decision ย I did and regretted it.They not only walked with me but held me accountable for my decision to be completely ย healed โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน After the study was over the Lord led ย the leadership team to ask me to become a facilitator for ย the study of โ€œForgiven and Set Freeโ€ by Linda Cochrane which helped heal the pain of abortion for other ladies!

Chris

Chris

Phone Coach Texas

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For every abortion, a man is involved.ย  I am one of those.ย  Nearly 20 years after our abortion and maturing emotionally and spiritually, I came to grips with my involvement in an abortion. Guilt began to creep in. I had 3 blessings of great kids and I realized I really had 4. That realization began to be a burden.

At about the same time, I was asked to help in a pregnancy center. I figured that would be a good avenue to atone for my abortion. Prior to actively volunteering in the pregnancy center, I was asked if I had abortion experience. Of course, I said yes then was required to go through a healing study led by another abortion-wounded individual.

I know I am forgiven and free of the guilt, regret, and shame I carried.ย  Just as one abortion-wounded individual shared and guided me through the process of forgiveness and healing, I now seek opportunities to do the same for others who are experiencing the emotional trauma phenomena that can be a result of one’s abortion experience.

My method to date and what I have found success with is one on one via phone or in the case of international contacts, via email. When I get a referral, I contact them as quickly as possible to let them know help is on the way. I only work with male abortion-wounded individuals. Iย  establish where the client is at the first encounter as in their history with abortion, their theology background, family history and so forth. I listen to the client and early on, establish we have a shared experience. In essence, a “me too/you too” almost bond.ย  Again, early on, I offer that I have achieved peace with my abortion past.ย  My intention is to impart that peace to them by as I have gained a sense of peace with my abortion past, they have the same opportunity. This may take a second, third, or more conversations prior to taking healing steps.

Males (guys) tend to want to fix things.ย  They want to know what they can do about their situation.ย  Working through Healing the Father, I share specific actions they can adopt that enabled and supported my own peace.ย  I offerย a list of books they can read and encourage them to get and read each one.ย  I have a list of songs they can download that support their move to peace. Overall, I establish their journey to peace doesn’t end when we cease talking. Their journey is life-long and results in a peace they did not have when we first talked.ย 

Eileen

Eileen

Phone Coach Colorado

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It wasnโ€™t long after Eileen accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior when she knew she was on a journey where it was time for her to surrender her broken heart that held the pain from her past. It was in this place that Eileen began to know the love and faithfulness of God and was experiencing the emotional healing she so desperately longed for.

Eileen then began to experience a passion stirring in her heart to walk alongside other womenโ€ฆbringing them a message of hope that their broken hearts could be healedโ€ฆsetting them free from the darkness of the difficult circumstances of their past and those who were crushed with despair could be strengthened. Eileen became inspired by the Word written in Isaiah 61 and wanted to provide these women a beautiful bouquet to replace the ashes and a joyous praise instead of the spirit of heaviness.

God had a story to tell and used Eileenโ€™s life to tell it. Because a narcissistic dad raised her, she grew up feeling like she was never good enough and not worthy of being loved. At the age of eighteen, Eileen started looking for love in all the wrong places and ended up marrying a young man who paid her the attention she so deeply desired. As they were both extremely broken individuals, they found themselves headed very quickly into a marriage filled with turmoil. After being married for 5 years and already having a 4 year old son, they thought that bringing another child into their lives would be the answer to all their problems. Shortly after Eileen found herself pregnant, she recognized that having another baby was not the answer. As it was more than she could bear, she began strategizing a way to rid her life of all the chaos. Eileen chose to have an abortion and filed for divorce all within the same week.

Eileen discovered everything that was told to her by those working at the abortion clinic was a lie and having an abortion was only furthering the chaos in her life. Keeping it a secret from those around her, Eileen carried the pain, shame, and guilt of her decision. Several years later, in Godโ€™s perfect timing, He led her to an abortion recovery 8-week Bible study called Surrendering the Secret. And yet again, Eileen experienced the love of God as He was healing her heart.

God later gave Eileen another opportunity to further the healing process when she participated in a weekend retreat called Rachelโ€™s Vineyard. This provided for her yet another layer of healing from the trauma brought on by her childhood as well as the abortion.

 

 

TAMMY

TAMMY

Phone Coach Michigan

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I was 17, single and pregnant. My parent and my boyfriend coerced me into a first-trimester suction abortion that had been prearranged and paid in full, with theย bloody sum ofย $250.00.” No other surgical procedure requires money up front.

I was told the procedure was very simple with minimal pain and it would be over in a matter of minutes. The so called professionals said there would be nothing to worry about after it was over.ย  Lies, lies, lies.

I was never warned of any physical, mental, or emotional risks attached to the abortion. I was not shown or educated on any fetal development.ย  ย I was told my baby was just โ€œa blob of tissue.โ€

The day of my abortion the Dr. asked me if I wanted to go through with it. I said โ€œABSOLUTLY NOTโ€. He informed me that I should talk to my parent; the parent who had coerced me and brought me.ย  I was now being coerced by the OB/GYN.ย  I felt like a frightened trapped animal that had been backed into a corner, with no escape.ย  Pressure to abort my baby as they told me they only did this procedure up to 12 weeks. ย I was 11 weeks.ย  I made a quick, bad decision.

The so-called simple procedure was extremely painful.ย  I was given a shot to make me slightly drowsy. I screamed at the horrendous sound of the suction machine as my body convulsed, only to have three nurses hold me down and tell me I needed to be quiet so not to disturb others waiting their turn.

I left that day feeling empty, physically and emotionally torn apart, abused and totally violated. Immediately following the abortion, intense grief and sadness overtook me.ย 

I contemplated suicide because of โ€œmy choiceโ€ to buckle under the pressure of being coerced into what others wanted.ย  I wanted my baby.

2 years later I married the father of my aborted child even though the relationship had many red flags of abuse.ย  I miscarried my 2nd pregnancy at 12 weeks. I was never informed of the physical risk of miscarriage following an abortion.ย  I desperately wanted this replacement baby.

My 3rd pregnancy was the first live birth of my son. It was very difficult physically and mentally.ย  I was not able to bond with him and found myself ย being abusive to him as an infant.

Abortion affected me in several areas: Physically through miscarriage, sexual dysfunction, anniversary reactions of illness, that coincided to the abortion date, self-destructive habits of weight loss, and no self-worth. I became a workaholic so I did not have to think about the abortion.

I will always have the memory of a child who could have been and should have been. That will never go away. Abortion hurts and victimizes ย women. Abortion hurt me. I refuse to be silent. America needs to know the truth about the devastation and harm of abortion.ย  How it hurts women, men and entire generations of families.

Many areas in my life were messed up and broken.ย  I couldnโ€™t fix them until I decided to let Jesus Christ take control of my pain.ย  In 1984 I became involved with a care pregnancy center and began my abortion recovery journey.ย  Abortion is โ€œBADโ€ law and a crime against humanity.ย  Abortion is NOT healthcare.

Tammy is a MI and FL spokesperson for OO since 2001 and has been an abortion recovery facilitator since 1988.ย  Tammy was a director, for 6 years of the CPC where she has volunteered since 1984.ย 

Tammy is available for public speaking and a legislative voice to share the truth of how abortion hurts women.

CAMI

CAMI

Prayer Team

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Cami is on the board of New Heart of TX and has led several Rachelโ€™s Vineyard Retreats.ย  Cami also volunteers during the Grief to Grace retreats for those who have been affected by abuse.ย  Cami is an experienced Phone Coach where she answered phones for over 4 years.ย  Cami has a heart for helping others heal from their past.

Cami was born to a couple who dearly loved God and served as international missionaries.ย  She accepted Christ into her heart at the age of six.ย  Even though she grew up in the church, her perception of God was not of a loving Father but more of a judge.ย  When she found herself pregnant in March of 1982, she was scared, ashamed and alone.ย  She had only known the father of the baby for two months and she felt sure he would abandon her.ย  The only option she thought she had was abortion.ย  She couldnโ€™t face the shame she knew this would cause for her family, so in April she drove herself to the Planned Parenthood Clinic.ย  What happened that day became her secret- a secret she planned to take to the grave.ย  She felt relieved and blocked the whole event from her mind-so she thought.

Twenty-five years later she filled out an application to volunteer at the Pregnancy Help Center.ย  The lie continued when she answered โ€œnoโ€ to the question: โ€œHave you ever had an abortionโ€.ย  During the volunteer training, she heard testimonies from two women who had an abortion.ย  This was the first time she had ever heard anyone talk candidly about their abortion experience.ย  These women had received Godโ€™s forgiveness and had forgiven themselves.ย  The joy and peace on their faces was unmistakable and she wanted that same joy and peace.

In April 2008, Cami completed a post abortion bible study and then attended Rachelโ€™s Vineyard in 2010.ย  She did not know how much her abortion had affected her life.ย  For 26 years she suffered with depression, feelings of unworthiness, anger, difficulty with relationships and fear that God would punish me.

The God she now knows is the God of love, mercy and grace.ย  His forgiveness and healing in her life has ignited a passion in her to help anyone that has struggled with the effects of abortion.ย  Cami served at the Pregnancy Help Center, has facilitated several Forgiven and Set Free Bible studies and continues to serve on Rachelโ€™s Vineyard Retreats as a team member.

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